Mountain Joy

 

 

Ahh….the joys of vacation!

We spent the past few days as a foursome in the mountains.  It has become somewhat of a fall tradition for us, getting away to a cabin, spending time just hanging out.

This year, I felt like it was really needed.  The family time.  The time away from work.  The time away from our house where the to-dos of life can interrupt true relaxation.  I was so rushed to get out of here, that I didn’t pack very well.  I packed a canister with a 5 pound bag of flour in it…that I didn’t use, of course.

This year, we were in for a bit of a surprise.  Our weekend away had a couple of unprepared moments.

Our first day started off with a very tired Katy.  She was not pleased with anything.  Fortunately, a good sleep helped her reset for a better day.  Then Lucy got some sort of stomach bug.  Poor lady.  And I did a lot of laundry. 

 

This is what happens while you are waiting for the blankets to be washed.  You have to be covered up with a bath towel.

In the midst of grumpiness and sickness, I kept reminding myself that those were only moments.  The overall weekend was incredibly relaxing.  I spent a lot of time staring out the window at the mountains and the snowfall.  We had a lot of time to just hang out with each other.  No interruptions.  I read a book.  I worked on puzzles.  We ate a lot of good food.

In years past, I may have been discouraged by those moments.  The entire weekend would have seemed like a waste. 

Instead, we chose to roll with it.  We didn’t get defeated by circumstances that we had no control over. 

 

We chose to enjoy the time as a family.

Starting Small

I think some of you paid a bit more attention to the language in yesterday’s post than I did.  I was referencing a run with Billy and wrote “Just 8 miles.”

When this statement was pointed out to me in the comments, I laughed.  When I started running in March, there was no way I could have pictured myself writing that.  Just 8 miles.  No way.  I was gasping for air and dry heaving after 2 miles.  A 4 mile trail run with my sister over the summer left me sore for days.

When Billy and I got home from our run, I made a comment about how when I ran 8 miles in the summer, I felt like I had heatstroke.  Running the same course in 18 degree weather felt a bit more comfortable.  By the way, a few days before the run with Billy, I told my sister that I would never run in 15 degree weather.  I sure am getting close to that.

It’s all about perspective isn’t it?  Time shifts our perspective.  Overcoming challenges changes our perspective.

When I look back on survival mode, I can’t imagine how I made it through.  I was there, I lived it, and I am still amazed.  There were days during survival mode when I didn’t think I would make it through.  Looking at what I still needed to accomplish was too overwhelming.  I had to break it down.  There were days that I couldn’t look past the next week.  It was too big.

Lately, life has felt too big again.

My soul feels a little sore.

I have to break it down, day by day.

I have to start small, with that 2 mile run.

Sustain

One question we seem to ask to clients a lot at work is, “How are you taking care of yourself?”  The answer is usually, “I’m not,” which is then a great conversation starter for how to take care of yourself.  We often use that question with each other, as well.  For example, when I saw a colleague this weekend who was talking about hearing painful stories in counseling sessions, my question was then, “How are you taking care of yourself?”

This question, “How are you taking care of yourself?” is an important one.  And it doesn’t just apply to people at the receiving end of some type of service.

 

It applies to all of us.  We all need to find those things that nourish and sustain us.

In my last post, I mentioned that I was feeling worn thin.  This weekend, I tried to be as unscheduled as possible.  Sure, I still had my to-dos.  But one of my “must-dos” was take care of myself.  So how did I take care of myself this weekend?

·         I made a sweet potato pie.  It was amazing.  I cooked and baked other goods as well.

·         I snuggled with my ladies and watched movies, one of those was my all-time favorite, “Rear Window.” 

·         I started watching “Elementary” on the recommendation of a few folks.  I love Sherlock Holmes so I thought I would give it a whirl.  Why didn’t anyone tell me Aidan Quinn was in that?!  I would have watched it from the beginning.

·         I drank lots of hot tea and hot chocolate.

·         I went running and tried to let the drumming into my heart.  I even went running with Billy today, a running date, of sorts.  Just 8 miles.  My ankle started to really bug me from my trail run a few days prior.

·         I let myself stare blankly at the warm fire in the fireplace and let my mind drift.  I let my heart feel the undercurrent of joy.

Did any of these things take away the pain of the world that I have been carrying on my shoulders lately?  Of course not.  Did any of these things help me sleep through the night?  No.  Did my lounging bring about clarity of mind?  I wish. 

But they will sustain me for now.

Undercurrent

Today has been one of those days.  To be honest, it has been more than today.  It has been weeks.

Sometimes as I’m going through my day, I imagine my moments as a facebook status update.  As I was driving home, I thought, “The problems of the world are too big for me today.”

But that didn’t fit.  The problems of the world are too big for me every day.

I’m worn a little thin right now. 

And it shows.

At work, I keep thinking, “if one more thing happens,” and one more thing does happen.  And another.  And another.  That’s the nature of my work, another thing always happens.

I’m unfocused and fuzzy.  It took me three days to send an email back to someone because I couldn’t word it properly.  The words simply didn’t make sense.

Last night, I was happy to have pulled off grilled cheese, chips and apple slices for dinner for me and the girls. 

I have been eating way too much Halloween candy.

I haven’t been sleeping well.

But there has also been this feeling of comfort.  I feel the quiet calm of joy.

I always thought joy meant the exuberance of happiness.  But happiness is usually only a fleeting feeling. 

Joy to me is that undercurrent of well-being.  The appreciation for the life around me.  The reassurance that my current state of chaos is not permanent.

Today, Lucy brought up an old picture of Billy and me.  It has been in a frame forever but she wanted to know all about it.  When it was, where it was, who took the picture.  It brought a smile to my face, remembering when it was taken, who I was back then. 

I felt that undercurrent rise to the surface.  The quiet calm of joy.

Time Change

That was a lovely rest from posting!  Thank you all for your lovely comments during the series.  I needed a few days off after 31 in a row.  I’ve been eating too much Halloween candy and then trying to run it off.  How about you?

Tonight we were talking about the time change.  I realized that this is the first year in 5 years that I won’t be working an overnight shift when the time changes.  Anyone who has worked an overnight during the time change knows exactly how depressing it can be to see the time change from 2 am back to 1 am.

A year ago, this moment seemed so distant. 

In the back of my mind, it didn’t seem possible.

But here I am.  Sleepy, ready for bed, belly full of Mexican food…and Halloween candy.  Tonight, I won’t notice the time changing from 2 am to 1 am (hopefully).  I will enjoy this “extra hour of sleep” that everyone brags about.  Of course, that is if Elwood Wilson doesn’t meow or try to smother me.  Or if no one has a nightmare and crawls into bed, squishing me in the middle.  With Elwood Wilson on top.

A year ago, I never could have imagined the simple joy of sleeping through the time change.  It was such a long journey.  I had many moments of doubt when I didn’t think it would get better.  But it did get better.

And although it was so challenging to go through, moments like tonight, when I can reflect on the past and know how far I’ve come, are so much more joyful.